3 things people ask me about LDR

There are many things people ask me about Long Distance Relationship but these three are absolutely the most common but also the most annoying. No seriously, how do they even dare to ask this kind of questions?! Ok, anyway…

1. Do you miss him?
   No, I don’t.
   Come on! How can you ask something like that?! It is the same as asking someone that has just missed his train whether they are angry or not. It does not make any sense.
   Of course I miss him. Everyday and at all times of the day. But there is something you can and must do to handle the situation such as keeping your mind focused on something else. I can’t tell you how convenient it is to stick with the positive aspects, rather than with the negativity that always surround us. And actually, this is what Topino usually says.
2. How can you be sure he is not going to cheat on you?
   First of all, this is one of those questions that I hate the most because in some ways it is like they are putting the bad thoughts in your head. However, it is also one of the most challenging questions because every time I have to smile saying that we trust each other and I do not even have this kind of doubts.
   One that has never experienced a long distance relationship would not understand and I can bet he or she would  laugh. Their reactions don’t change my answer.
3. How can you handle it?
   I love answering this question because every time I do, people are stunned and they stare at me. Why? Once I say that being in a relationship is like working in a company where the two people involved are the bosses, whoever is listening to me, shuts up immediately. But this is actually the truth. We communicate (and sometimes argue), we set deadlines, objectives, goals and we celebrate success. Want an example? We always try our best to get to see each other in the shortest possible time; we talk about everything from the most stupid and insignificant thing (everything matters, thought) to the most metaphysical topic.

Believe or not, being in a long distance relationship is amazing. You grow every day, with yourself and with your beloved one. It is never boring, always challenging. And I actually do love motivate people in believing in LDR. In someways, every time I do so, I motivate myself too.

Consider also that it is not going to be a LDR forever, it is just a temporary situation. And when this would be over, you would have something to be extremely proud of and cheering together gloating “We made it”.